When Something Is Worth Building, You Learn to Build It Right

It’s easy to love potential, and even easier to love something when it’s all excitement and no resistance.

The challenge is showing up when it starts to demand more from you. Things like more patience, more learning, and more intention start to tug at you.

This is when putting in the effort kicks in. When what you want asks you to grow, change, and show up differently than you’re used to.

But that’s how you build something that lasts!

This building stage is the part we usually aren’t ready for.
Not because we don’t care, it’s probably because caring isn’t enough.

You can care about your relationship and still shut down during conflict. Guilty 🙋🏽♀️
You can care about your business and still avoid/procrastinate on what it needs from you.
You can care about your dream and still not be showing up properly.

Whether it’s your relationship, business, brand, or vision, the beginning is usually fueled by emotions like passion and excitement. But once the high fades, what you’re left with is intention and structure.

And structure doesn’t build itself.

So now you hit friction…

You may realize that your natural way of doing things isn’t the best fit for what you’re trying to build.

For most people, friction looks like a sign to quit. But you’re not most people, right?

That friction could be a sign that it’s time to change your old habits. Now it’s time to move forward and learn a new way.

For me, in business, that looks like a shift from hustle to strategy.

In relationships, it could mean to ask more questions and listen to understand. And make no assumptions.

Creative process, it might mean letting go of what worked before, in order to grow into something deeper.

This is the messiness in the middle of the journey before you reach the goal. 

But if it matters to you, just adjust.

Don’t ask, “Why isn’t this working?”
Start asking, “What does this need from me now?”

So here’s what to do when you hit that point, but you still want to build something that lasts:

1. Audit.
   Just because you meant well doesn’t mean it’s working. Ask better questions. Get clear on what isn’t working. Is it the way you lead, your workflow, your choice of words, tone, etc?
2. Drop the ego.
   You don’t grow if all you do is defend your comfort zone. If you're committed to the vision, you may need to get flexible. The process doesn’t always go as you planned it.
3. Structure.
   Your dream needs a plan. Love needs understanding. If you want to see results, you’ll need intentional effort. Emotion won’t cut it.

So if it’s something you care about, but you’re clashing with it:
Don’t pull away. Go towards it and lean into the issues.
Not everything is a red flag. Sometimes it’s a sign that it’s time to build better. (This is something you should learn to differentiate and use your intuition, though.)

All you need is a willing heart and the humility to learn how to show up right.